I was reading a guest post from one of my favorite bloggers, Brent Stubbs, on Ignitum Today, a Catholic blog. I've been working on packing up my apartment which is something I really don't want to do right now. Therefore, when I saw related links, of course I wanted to spend a little more time on the internet.
My clicking brought me to the Ignitum Today "dating" topic and, since this topic is relevant to my life, I read on. As I was following my clicks further and further down the rabbit hole I noticed something interesting. There are a lot of single people out there who feel lost in their singleness. They are excited about marriage and family and/or they're excited about joining a religious community, but nothing seems to be happening to lead them down the road. Instead they're stuck in between and they don't know what to do with themselves. This is both comforting and sad. Comforting because I often have felt this way too, sad because, well, feeling lost is sad.
I had an interesting realization while I was reading today. One blogger was talking about putting family first (after God of course), but without a husband and children, she felt at a loss. I don't have a husband or children, but I still have a family. I have brothers and parents and grandmothers and uncles and aunts and cousins. That's a lot of family even without me finding a mate and forming a new nuclear family. I also have a tendency to "adopt" family members wherever I go and think of my relationship to them in those terms.
So, in conclusion, all of those little baby crafts on Pinterest are great. I'm excited, but that all seems to be in the fuzzy future. I can't even tell if it's in the near or distant future. But the point is, I don't need to wait until I have babies to make my family a priority in my life.
My clicking brought me to the Ignitum Today "dating" topic and, since this topic is relevant to my life, I read on. As I was following my clicks further and further down the rabbit hole I noticed something interesting. There are a lot of single people out there who feel lost in their singleness. They are excited about marriage and family and/or they're excited about joining a religious community, but nothing seems to be happening to lead them down the road. Instead they're stuck in between and they don't know what to do with themselves. This is both comforting and sad. Comforting because I often have felt this way too, sad because, well, feeling lost is sad.
I had an interesting realization while I was reading today. One blogger was talking about putting family first (after God of course), but without a husband and children, she felt at a loss. I don't have a husband or children, but I still have a family. I have brothers and parents and grandmothers and uncles and aunts and cousins. That's a lot of family even without me finding a mate and forming a new nuclear family. I also have a tendency to "adopt" family members wherever I go and think of my relationship to them in those terms.
So, in conclusion, all of those little baby crafts on Pinterest are great. I'm excited, but that all seems to be in the fuzzy future. I can't even tell if it's in the near or distant future. But the point is, I don't need to wait until I have babies to make my family a priority in my life.
